Kara Swanson's Brain Injury Blog

April 15, 2017


Filed under: Uncategorized — karaswanson @ 11:59 am

Good Friday is never good for me.  I am a Christian and, on Good Friday, I am overcome with remorse for what we did to Jesus that day.   Whether Easter for you is about the bunny or The Lamb, it is, to me, a time to reflect on a flickering light in this world.

I don’t know about you but, these last few years, I find myself saying more and more, “WTF is wrong with people?” when I hear or read of the seemingly-endless accounts of cruelty, assault and murder.   It is not rare to count the first five stories on the local news or to read the first seven stories on-line filled with meanies, knuckleheads and far, far worse than that.

Maybe because the Internet allows us to see more, we believe that there is more.  Maybe there is.  But it is true that people have been wretched and rotten and inhumane to each other for centuries.

Whether you believe that Jesus was the Son of God is a step beyond a truth that there was, indeed, a man named Jesus who was put to death in his time.  That crucifixion should have been the most extraordinary story of that time just for the inhumane details of it.  Unfortunately, that is not nearly the case.

We have, as mankind, hung people from trees and walked them off of planks into the ocean with their hands and feet tied.  We have disemboweled them alive and burned them alive, too.  We have crucified them, even upside down.  Beheaded and gutted and shot and stabbed them.

Over and over I ask again…why have we not taught and why have they not learned?

A murder, a torture, an assault, a rape, a robbery or a bullying should be so rare and so over-the-top that we rail against the enormous wrongness of that single act.  In that case, we could stand aside and rationalize how that one went wrong whether it was bad parenting or trauma or mental illness or drugs or whatever.   The event would be the talk of the town and the commitment of the community.  It would headline and enrage-just that one event.

But to imagine the literally uncountable, over the centuries, who have suffered and died at the hands of like others….I weep for this.  We can’t even remember each instance for a week when so many follow.

How does anyone grow up to believe that if someone has worked hard for something, it is OK to steal it from them.  Take it for themselves….If someone desires a person, they are to be conquered, with or without their consent.  If someone has this color of this or that size of that, it is OK to belittle, bully and humiliate them for it.  If someone has thought or imagined or wronged or erred or even glanced in a way, then it is OK to murder them.  To take them out. To remove them from an offended sight.

This Easter I wish everyone someone to love.  Someone they don’t want to lose so maybe they won’t be so quick to do something that might find them in prison the rest of their life for.  Someone they don’t want to lose because of retaliation for something horrific they might do.  Someone they don’t want to have to stand before having brought shame upon.  Someone they would rather just enjoy life with and make good of it with.

I wish everyone someone to love.  A kid that looks up to them.  A dog or a cat who waits and depends upon them.  A friend.  A partner.  A spouse.  Someone.  Someone who inspires their best and someone who puts a face to the fear of loss.

Perhaps if we do a better job of filling people’s hearts with a love that cannot imagine hating, then we will spend less time filling up our prisons and our cemeteries.

Seems we do a better job of being aware of the colds we spread.  We pay attention.  We tell people to stay away with their germs.  We don’t want to catch that!!!

Maybe we need to do a better job of realizing that, indeed, we are spreading something every day.   The common cold is the least of our problems.

Let’s spread good germs.  See if those around us will “catch” a positive attitude, a forgiving culture, a pleasant manner, a helpful way, a healthy respect, a foundation of love.

Happy Easter, Happy Spring, Happy Every Little Thing.



  1. Beautifully written!

    Comment by Ian — April 15, 2017 @ 1:08 pm | Reply

  2. Thanks so much, Ian :)))))

    Comment by karaswanson — April 15, 2017 @ 3:41 pm | Reply

  3. I just watched a show on PBS Friday or Saturday. It was about the parents from Newtown. The program was about parents who lost a child, age 6 or 7. It was about the parent’s of children who made it out alive. It also covered the EMS who went in and tried to treat those kids who were shot in that elementary school. The show covered what all those people in Newtown are doing to try to move forward or at least keep moving.
    Your post hit me hard at a time when I was reeling over what all those people in Newtown experienced and how not a day goes by when they don’t continue to suffer.
    I believe love is a big part of the equation, but it is such a big problem that it needs more than one solution. Since we can’t seem to change the NRA bought and paid for in Washington, love seems like a good place to start.
    One Mother who lost a child in Newtown, she went to DC to try to encourage the government to set up a program to help kids know what to look for in a classmate who is about to go off. The government told her they didn’t have the funds. She told them if they didn’t do it, she would.
    She has been traveling across the country speaking in schools. She started a program called Just Say Hi. She encourages students to reach out to other students who are isolated. Start with “Hi” and take it from there. She told them not to ignore posts of threats on social media or anything they might have heard. It’s just one step, but each step has helped.
    Yes, love is a great place to start because from love comes compassion and even empathy. We have to start somewhere. Thanks, Kara.

    Comment by Lynn — April 17, 2017 @ 2:39 pm | Reply

    • Hi Lynn! I wasn’t really thinking love brings compassion and empathy. LOL. I was thinking that love brings fear and maybe forethought. Most of the time, I don’t think that people think. They don’t imagine the price they will pay for their actions. They kill in some emotional frame of mind. They don’t imagine the rest of their lives then. That they will likely be caught. Never being with their loved one/s again. Never going home. Never having the choice of a meal or a walk outside. They don’t imagine the shame and sadness of having to stand before a loved one having done what they might do.I think you are right in stating that, with such a serious and widespread problem, we need many steps and many angles and many attempts and many answers. How cool of that woman to start Just Say Hi herself. Big kudos to her :))

      Comment by karaswanson — April 18, 2017 @ 6:43 am | Reply

  4. Hi Kara,

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    Comment by Maegan Jones — April 26, 2017 @ 2:37 am | Reply

    • To Maegan Jones and all the good folks at Healthline, thank you so much for this great award. I am entirely honored and genuinely thrilled. Big smiles here. Thank you, thank you, so much! Kara Swanson

      Comment by karaswanson — April 26, 2017 @ 7:37 am | Reply

  5. Useful information shared on Brain accident. I am very happy to read this article. Thanks for giving us nice info. Fantastic walk through. I appreciate this post.

    Comment by Mark Schiffrin P.A. — August 3, 2017 @ 5:38 am | Reply

    • Well, hey there, Mark! Thank you so much for the kind words. I appreciate them and I’m glad you enjoyed the blog. Best wishes to you! Kara

      Comment by karaswanson — August 5, 2017 @ 9:03 am | Reply

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