Kara Swanson's Brain Injury Blog

February 4, 2019

Vulnerability

Filed under: Uncategorized — karaswanson @ 4:35 pm

Seems we don’t talk enough about this aspect of brain injury…

Many of us, after being hurt, experience a vulnerability that we didn’t suffer before.

It can be scary.

When we are first hurt, we are overwhelmed with the injury and its implications and aftermath.  We are consumed with new symptoms and a frustrating lack of urgency in their healing.  We are flooded with the losses coming at us with break-neck speed:  abilities, jobs, relationships, plans…

The sense of vulnerability usually comes when we’ve healed some, enough to stretch our wings a bit and try to reclaim some of our previous normal.

Suddenly, we realize that we may be at risk for any number of reasons:

We aren’t thinking right so we may make plans that are not realistic or safe when we are now less than sharp and when most of us suffer a shortage in cognitive fuel.

Our memories often fail us and so we don’t always recall if we made the plans with all our best interests in mind.  Did we plan right?  Did we make lists?  Did we cover our backs?  Did we prioritize our safety?

I can tell that, in my own life, I have improved in many ways over the last twenty-plus years I’ve dealt with my injury.  But, as these years fly, I also am made more aware of my feelings of vulnerability when you add that I am a woman and I am getting older.

I don’t want to become scared of things.  Scared of life…So it’s important to me that I shine up my smart and overcome my vulnerabilities with really smart choices:

I make sure that I make plans when I am relaxed and rested.  I take care to plan events beforehand by picturing it and by writing out a time-frame from shower to returning home safe.  I tell trusted people my plan so that, in case I’m not reading it right, I can depend on them to point out things I might have missed.  I pack a “go bag” in my car with my meds, extra clothes and supplies in case ANYTHING happens that I didn’t see coming.  I arm myself with a whistle on my key chain, pepper spray in my car, a tool to protect myself in my car, a charged cellphone and a charger to take along.  I text people when I’m leaving and when I return home safe.

We have more to consider-as we get older, for those of us who are women, and as brain injury survivors.  We don’t have to get scared but we need to get smarter as we go.

Keep soaring, everyone!  Keep doing new and doing you and getting through.  Just be safe and smart.   I’m cheering for you.  Kara

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2 Comments »

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    Comment by flatpanelledlight82.wordpress.com — May 27, 2019 @ 6:55 am | Reply

    • Well, hello, flatpanelledlight82! Thank you for pointing out my spelling errors. I always run a spell-check but I do like to make up my own words. LOL. Have a great day. Kara

      Comment by karaswanson — May 27, 2019 @ 10:20 am | Reply


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