If you take a bit to actually look at the time line on your Facebook page, you’ll notice how, no matter what you post, everything makes its way down. The greatest of achievements…the saddest of news…the cutest of goose videos….
All get bumped by newer things.
Unfortunately, for so many of us stuck in stalled recoveries, it’s like we wake up every day and go post on Facebook:
I sustained a brain injury!
We just keep re-setting each day and then, even if we DO post other new things, they are still never very far away from the last or the next post that we have a brain injury.
It anchors us to that bottom line.
If we posted that first day on Facebook that we had sustained a brain injury, chances are we would have received comments and emojis from virtually all of our family and friends. Lots of sad and shocked emojis. Lots of comments and cheers for a speedy recovery.
And then we’d post again.
And again.
You can imagine that, after several posts, there would be fewer comments. Fewer responses. Fewer emojis. You might even start getting comments like, are you OK? I’m worried about you….
People would tire of the same old post. They might even unfriend you because the topic is a bummer and they would probably consider you to be a bummer, by then, too.
As it is on Facebook, we have to get out of our stuck place. We have to stop starting each day with that one detail about us and start showcasing all the other facets in our shining diamond. We have to allow our news to fall lower in our time line. We must encourage it so by replacing it with newer things. Fresh things to report. Activities and accomplishments and special time spent with loved ones. Every day.
Things that make us laugh. Things that are new in our lives. Things that are important to and about our loved ones. Cute videos of goosie gooses, absolutely.
Life.
And living.